Monday, June 1, 2009

Are we seeing the same thing??

I wrote this yesterday and forgot to post. Ooops!

Isn't it funny how two different people can see the same situation in different ways? I had to chuckle about that this evening, after a phone call I got from RB.

RB has this crush on me, like I have a crush on KC. Like, if this was junior high, he would have passed me the note by now. You know the one: "Will you go with me?" - and then the three boxes for "yes," "no," and "maybe." He acknowledges that he understands that I'm not feeling him that way. But that doesn't stop him from bringing things up, in an effort to prove some kind of point.

We both normally get to the rink early, so we leave our bags in the same area. That usually results in us walking out at the same time. Last night, I got my shoes on, and then I decided to hit the vending machine to get something to drink. When I came back, he had gotten up and was talking to some people. So I ran and grabbed my bag, and then I ended up having my own side bar conversations.I walked out to my car and got in to leave. RB got to his car after me, and waved good bye, and then I left.

Tonight he called me, because he felt bad about leaving my bag sitting there and felt he should have grabbed it. Um...ok? **insert crickets chirping** It really wasn't that big of a deal! I told him it was fine, there was nothing to apologize for. He went into some other small talk, and then said, "and there was something else I wanted to say to you."

Oh lawd. Here we go! Jesus take the wheel. There always has to be some type of dramatic start to his dialogue. Why?

He proceeds to say, "well...I just wanted you to know, that if I had a girlfriend...I wouldn't skate with other women as much." Um...ok? I mean, I don't know what to say sometimes when he comes out with these revelations, because really it all has to do with me and KC, but he won't just come out and say it. I'm trying to work on my the alternative is to pause and really think of a response that won't be snarky. But, I know why he's saying this. KC and I skated all three slow songs together, laughing and talking...only acknowledging other folks when we needed to get around folks who were in the way. RB was forced to skate with a couple of chicks he was tutoring.

I asked him, "what is it that you think you're doing wrong?" Everybody knows that if you want to learn something, you go to RB. He has the most patience out of anyone in that rink, when it comes to teaching people moves. People go to him all the time for help. I should hope that if he had a girlfriend, and she was a skater, she would understand. It certainly is his choice to choose NOT to skate with folks - but it's not mine.

At this point, I think he was waiting for me to say, "I agree! If I had a boyfriend I wouldn't skate with other guys as much." I said nothing, and continued munching on my sandwich, Sun Chips, and dill pickle (I've been obsessed with pickles lately. No, there's no bun in the oven. LOL). Then I told him - just to be contrary - that I really don't see what the problem was, and I don't think he'd be doing anything wrong. If he had hair, he'd be pulling it out, after dealing with me. LOL!

I could tell that he wanted to say more, but I just steered him away from that convo. Distracted him by talking about improvements that need to be made to that rink, what I would do if I was running my own rink, etc. That usually keeps him occupied. I just was not in the mood to have the "Come to Jesus" meeting with him tonight. But I see that it's going to happen sooner, rather than later.


Serenity3-0 said...

Uh oh! I'm starting to feel sorry for the man... Maybe he needs to find a new rink?! LOL! And can you slow dance with him just one song at least? Geeze!

Marilie said...

What?? How are you feeling sorry for him. LOL! The thing is, I always skate with him the early part of the night. They mostly play slow jams, so he gets his skate in. And I did skate with him at one point in the middle of the night. He needs to learn how to share. LOL!

Anonymous said...

Listening to RB tales is like watching a romantic tragedy or something. Poor guy. I hope he finds someone soon.

Meanwhile, you know that man has ishyas :-) and is sensitive. LOL! Take it easy on him.

Marilie said...

You guys are cracking me up with the "take pity on RB" sentiment. LOL! I have tried...pity gets mistaken for niceness, and then he is just more encouraged. Even though he SAYS he knows that I don't like him the way he likes me. He gets the first 2 hours of skating...that should be enough! LOL