I would have loved to post some type of old school video link here, but my job blocks YouTube, and frankly I should probably be working. LOL! Got a few random things to post about:
A friend called me yesterday, by mistake. He was trying to call a lawyer friend about a business he is starting. I was on my way to the rink, but we took a few minutes to catch up. He told me he was about to break up with the woman he had been seeing. When I asked why, I expected the usual answers: "we're growing apart...we're not interested in the same things...somebody cheated on somebody..." you know - the usual. The woman he was dating has multiple schlerosis. She is losing her sight. She can't move around as well. She asked him to come with her to her last doctor's visit, so he could see exactly what he'd be getting into. The doctor basically said that everything is going to get worse. She knews that he has a daughter (she's about 7 or 8), and that he wants to have more kids; she's not in the position to move forward with that, so I guess that's why she brought it up. He said he loved her and this was a really hard decision to come to. It just made me think - if I met someone who had MS (or some other debilitating disease), would I have ever started dating them? If I did, would I be able to stick with them through something like this, or would I have to go? Tough questions. I realized I don't have the answers right now. When you marry someone, it really is for better or for worse. I just know that I can't get into a relationship for the wrong reasons. I've seen people stay together because sex is good. OK, what happens if he has a car accident and he's paralyzed from the waist down? Now what? Things that make you go hmmm.
On another note, why did R call me last night? I was at the rink, so I didn't answer. He then proceeds to send me a series of text messages. He says he's been thinking back, realizes what mistakes he made. How I was the best woman he ever dated, and he wants me back. Will I give him another chance? Yeah, no. It took me about 8 text messages, but I think I broke it down for him so that he will never approaching me with this tom foolery again. His response was, "ok." Good. I hope you are ok. Get your mind right. You are realizing things you SHOULD have been realizing when we were dating, and I can't help you now!
It's time to introduce a new character. I'm gonna call him Roll Bounce, or RB for short. RB is really cool. He's 10 years older than me - let's hope there aren't going to be any whack duffel bags! Anywho, RB is very persistent. I ended a relationship back in September...it didn't end well. After that, I decided I was going to just chill. Learn how to date again, etc. When I started skating back in January, I noticed that the vibe in Charlotte is totally different than in Atlanta. In Atlanta, if you are new to the rink, people KNOW it, and they come up to you and start talking to you, skating with you...etc. Especially the guys. So in Charlotte, I noticed people were not as friendly. Or maybe just shy about approaching people. I saw RB a few times before he came up to me and said hello. Then he asked to skate with me. Eventually he helped me work on my backwards skating, taught me some new moves...and now we pretty much skate together all the time. Which has led to other men coming out of the wood work - mainly NY and St. Louis, as I like to call them (because of their skating styles). Those dudes are another blog for another day.
Anywho, RB and I have been talking. A lot. We have great conversations. He is helping me with my study of the Torah (the first five books of the Bible). And of course, we skate. He doesn't pressure me, but he has made his feelings clear. I'm just not there right now. He's trying to wear me down, like Urkel and Laura. I shall not be moved! LOL
I told y'all this was gonna be really random...I just spent my first hour at work writing this blog and emailing folks. I guess I should do some work now! I have become the "go-to" person in my unit, when crazy claims come in. I just got an email from my supervisor...with a forward of an email a customer's wife sent in on a new claim. She sounds Looney Tunes. This person will need extra hand-holding...apparently I am the expert of my unit when it comes to that. I appreciate being the go-to person. Sometimes. It lets me know that my skills are recognized. But, it's also frustrating to have to put out fires first thing in the morning. Or any time of the day, really. I don't have the patience for whiney folks. But, I'm about to get a great big does of Whiney McWhinerson in a couple of hours. Ah well. Such is life.