So, I was speaking with two different co-workers this morning. They both have young kids. The first has two kids, a son and a daughter. I always ask about her son's adventures, as he has just started kindergarten. He's excited about riding the bus, etc. Her daughter is in pre-school. We started talking about how she is potty training and how they have these little mini-toilets at the pre-school, so her daughter doesn't like to use the potty training toilet. Understandable - plop her on the big people toilet and call it a day. That's how I was when I was a baby. She started talking about how the 5 and a half year old will not poop (OK, I really couldn't think of another phrase, so we'll just go with that) at school or out in public - he always wants to wait until he gets home. OK, I can understand that - not really a problem. But THEN she said, this kid will not wipe his own butt. People with kids - help me out. At 5.5 years old, shouldn't you be wiping your own butt??? Is this normal? Should a 5 year old be pitching a hissy fit and crying if you won't wipe his butt? I could see going back to check and make sure he worked it out, but to actually have to go in and wipe his butt every time he goes? What happens when he just can't hold it and HAS to go at school? The teacher is NOT gonna wipe his butt!!
That just struck me as weird. At mean at some point, don't you just have to step in and lay down the law - I don't care if you don't want to wipe your butt, suck it up! I can't speak for sure 'cause I'm not a parent yet, but I just never heard of this.
She also fights with the daughter about clothes. Once, the daughter was going to be in a wedding, and some shoes had been bought specifically for that purpose. The daughter wanted to wear the shoes to school, and pitched a fit until she finally gave in and let her wear them. Now what were you gonna do if the shoes got ruined at school? They apparently fight with each other all the time about what the daughter is going to wear.
The second co-worker advised that her pre-school aged child does not like to get her hair done after a bath. Says she screams and cries like you are trying to scalp her. I'm like ok, do you have a little chair for her to sit in? Do you have something to make it a fun activity? Either way, how does the child get to totally dictate when it's time to get her hair done? I know they all go through that. I remember my niece D, she absolutely hated it, whined about it...but she sat her butt in that chair while her momma did her hair. I just can't see me fighting with a child to do their hair.
Anywho - people with kids, speak up! Is this all normal? It just seems like some of the stories these folks at work tell me...they spend their whole lives fighting with their kids, and I just want to know who is the kid and who is the parent? And is this what I have to look forward to, if/when I have kids? Maybe my mom was just too no-nonsense.